Where is Love?

Dear readers,

I am so happy to meet with you once again this month.  February is an amazing month, especially here in Kuwait, where it is filled with love both with Valentine’s day on the 14^th and National and Liberation day on the 25^th and 26^th. 

In actuality, there are so many kinds of love but, I know, many of you are looking for that special someone to live happily ever after with, just like the movies, right?  If Cinderella found her Prince Charming, why not you, right?   The quest to find love has filled books, movies, songs, and millions of hours of discussion.  So, if you are one those people who want love or want to increase the love in your life, you are definitely not alone, so that can be a load off.  So, how does one find love and, once found, hold on to it?  This question has plagued relationships for years, but today I’d like to put a new spin on it.

Ladies, if I may, I would like to talk with you.  Did you know that finding love starts with loving yourself?  You MUST love yourself and have a life that you love.  

In actuality, you must love yourself more than you do to anyone else.  You cannot love anyone more than yourself and expect to have a balanced, solid relationship.  It just doesn’t work that way.  The sad truth is, no one can love you more than you love yourself.  

So, if we were to quantify how much you love yourself on a scale of one to ten, ten being the most:  If you love yourself 7/10 that means that your special someone can love you only a maximum of 6/10.  It you give yourself places the ceiling on the love you will receive.  

The more you love yourself, the more you will allow it to enter your life and, if you restrict that amount of love, it will affect you negatively. 

A question that may arise is: How do I love myself?  Take a look at your life and the activities you are a part of.  What are you spending your life on?  Spending every spare second attached to your phone waiting for his message or his call is a horrible way to spend your time.  

Waiting, feeling sorry for yourself and resenting him is not the way to a healthy relationship.  Get up!  Go join a gym, join a club, join a class, join anything and enjoy your life.  Do not allow him to become the center of your life and the one and only point of happiness for you.  Meet different people, get a large variety of experiences, and enjoy your life.  

Please understand that you must be a complete person and not part of him.  The phrase “You Complete Me.”  is incorrect.  So this means you are able to be happy without him.  You must not depend on him for your happiness.  Believe it or not, he is only responsible for 10% of your happiness and you are responsible for the remaining 90%.  So that means, even if he is not there, you are still very happy. 

Find the calm within you.  The most important relationship you will ever have is the one you have with yourself.  Be nice to yourself.  Love yourself.  Don’t allow yourself to treat yourself badly.  Remember, we are all trying to be the best we can be, give yourself a break.  The most powerful words that determine our self worth are “I am”.  Take a moment to notice the words that you choose to follow.  If you say “I am not good enough” what do you expect the world to think?  What you believe about yourself will affect the world’s perception of you.  Why would you choose to label yourself anything less than amazing?  Why, when the world is a wonderful place full of possibilities, would you choose to be something not up to the standard you want?  I don’t know either. 

Ladies, I guarantee, once you begin to love yourself and change your perspective of what it truly means to you, you will find things will change for you.  You will exude confidence, self love and a special something that will make you simply an amazing catch for any guy.  Go ahead and try it!

If you have any questions or comments or stories, I would love to hear from you.  Connect with me!